About Us

WHO WE ARE:

Dhanak of Humanity is a not-for-profit organization mostly comprising interfaith and inter-caste couples. Dhanak, founded by a few interfaith couples, began as a support group in 2004. It was registered in 2012 under the Societies Registration Act.

Dhanak has evolved organically, and over the years it has emerged as a Champion organization working for the promotion of Right to Choice in the matters of Marriage and Relationships. It works against Honour-Based Crimes and Forced Marriages in India. Dhanak’s unique footing, passion, and experience drives the core team.

Our Mission: Working to promote Right to Choice in Marriage or Relationships and ending Honour-Based Crime.

Our Vision: We envision a gender-just world in which every person has the freedom of personal choice in the matters of Marriage or Relationships.

Our Values: Dhanak is guided by its commitment to embrace the value of: Diversity, Equality, Inclusiveness and Respect. We strive to create an open space for promoting dialogue, learning, growing and contributing. We have zero-tolerance for any form of violence and fundamentalism.

 

Dhanak is the only organization in India working on a spectrum of issues and challenges faced by interfaith couples. In the last few years, there has been a marked increase in the number of inter/intra-caste couples seeking support.

Over the years Dhanak has touched the lives of over 1300 couples. Dhanak’s expertise developed as a result of learnings based on real-life experiences of struggling couples; be it dealing with their own value system and stereotypes, their families, or with the administration and legal systems.

Dhanak’s members volunteer to support new couples and families whenever and with all possible means.

WHAT WE DO:
SUPPORT TO ASPIRING COUPLES:
  • Counselling & Guidance to Aspiring Couples
  • Legal Guidance and Aid to Aspiring Couples
  • Protection, Support and Financial aid to Couples in need
  • Facilitation for Marriage Solemnization & Registration
SERVICES TO INTER-RELIGIOUS/CASTE COUPLES AND FAMILIES:
  • Registration of Religious Marriage under Special Marriage Act
  • Protection and Legal support for prevention of Honour crimes and safety
  • Reconciliation with Parents
  • Safe Home for Couples in Need of Protection
  • Linkage with Support Group for Counselling & Support
  • Perspective Building on issues related to interfaith & gender-just living and universal human values  and Support System
  • Volunteering Opportunity
SENSITIZATION AND AWARENESS BUILDING:
  • Right to Choose
  • Against Honour Based Crimes and Forced Marriage
  • Marriage without Religious Conversion
  • Gender Equality in Relationships
  • Awareness on Provisions under the Civil Marriage (Special Marriage Act)
ADVOCACY & NETWORKING:
  • Amendment of Special Marriage Act and changes in State Rules
  • Demand for an Act against Honour-Based Crimes
  • Demand for Homes for Couples for Security and Protection
  • CHAYAN: A consortium of organizations working on Right to Choose, convened by Dhanak
  • Forum of Parents and responsible citizens for intervention in mixed cases
RESOURCE CENTRE:
  • Collection of secondary and primary data related to marriage from different states of India
  • Collection of secondary data related to incentives given to mixed marriages by state governments.

Our Story

Dhanak is an Urdu word for rainbow, which is a beautiful yet rare phenomenon. Similarly, interfaith/caste marriages are not common in our society. Just as rich colours get together to complete a rainbow, we believe that the differences in our religious backgrounds are like different hues that add to the richness of our lives. Not only can we co-exist, we can also enhance life’s quality thanks to the diversity that comes along due to the differences in our religious identities.

Our journey began in 2005 when a few interfaith couples decided to get together with the intention to form a forum which we decided to name as Dhanak. The idea was to help people with similar backgrounds to come together and form a support structure for each other at small group & individual levels. More importantly, we wanted to counter the spread of communalism in the society.

We believe that differences in religious backgrounds bring with it some unique issues and experiences, and we understand these well. We are confident that there are many such people who believe strongly in our vision and wish to be a part of it and support it.

We invite all to join us as “Friends of Dhanak”. Dhanak also looks forward to being associated as “Networking Partners” with likeminded groups and organizations that share Dhanak’s overall perspective of universal peace & harmony.

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  2. I want you to help my fiance. She can’t afford our marriage ceremony programme. Our marriage ceremony will held on January 17,2020 next year. So help her as soon as possible. I will be thankful of you and your crew members if you help my fiance so quick. Please help her as soon as possible. Please read this message, we need your help so quickly. Help my fiance.

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    • आयूष भाई, लिखने के लिए शुक्रिया…पर आपकी लिखी बात समझ नहीं आ रही…..अपनी बात हिंदी में लिखिए….या स्पष्ट शब्दों में लिखिए …..

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  3. We are together since last 9 years we both want to marry but castisim is big issue for girls side so please help us what we do and what our rights .we are both above 30.we talked and they refuse now please guide us.

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  7. Hello sir/mam,
    Please help me. 😭
    Meri family meri dusri jagah shadi karana chahti hai or wo chahti hai meri shadi samaj me ho. But me dusri ladki se pyaar krta hu but wo dusri caste ki hai and i dont think about caste.
    Please help me

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  8. hello sir,
    My name is Prasad pillamari and i am from vapi, Gujarat. I am 23 years old and i am doing masters in engineering and doing job as well in sweden. I am in relationship from last 6 years with girl named shivani patel. She is also 23 years old and she is physiotherapist in Vapi, Gujarat. we want to marry each other so i talked to her father very maturely and honestly but he told me that you are south indian so i cant accept you for my daughter. i tried to convince him but he was just talking about caste and all. now he is going to do marriage of shivani patel with some one else. Her parents is doing emotional blackmail on her. so she is going to accept to marry with some one else..please help us..we were planning to marry and settle in sweden..please if you can do anything for us. it will be great help for us..Please help me.Thank you

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    • Dear Prasad, congratulations fro your professional and educational achievements in such a young age….it seems that your partner has made up her mind in favour of her parents because she is unable to decide that whether her decision of choosing her life partner is correct or incorrect…we do understand that this was a not a thought after decision by her to fell in love with you…that is the beauty of love…it is purely natural and unbiased……So, we can certainly help her in taking a decision about her relationship with you….provided she calls us or writes to us…..

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  10. Hi, my parents don’t agree to my partner due to our intercaste relationship, and I still want their approval. He’s 30 and I’m 25. I need help!

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    • Dear Shubham, please ask her to call or write to us for the required help….we must know that she is open to receive a help from a third party…..or is it written by you in desperation since she is not ready to put any challenge to her family for her forced marriage to a third person

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  12. Hello sir /ma’am
    my name is Suman, I live west Bengal. Sir, I need ur help
    sir main ek larke k sath 7 sal se relationship me hun or wo muslim h. par main uske sath hi apna pura life share karna chahti hun or kisi k sath nhi. par main ghar se bhag k sadi nhi karna chahti . main chahti hun k mere sadi me mere parents v ho unke samne meri sadi ho par mere parents muslim larka k liye raji nhi horhe h bolte h samajh or relative kya bolege or sir meri situation ab bhut critical or complicated horhi h
    q ki main ne 2017 apni graduation complete ki hun or main chahti thi k main phle job le lun settle hojaun tb apne parents ko bataungi par uske phle hi kisi ne mere bhaiya ko bta diya hamare relation k bare me or ab na mere pass mobile h k main usse contact karu bas kvi meri ek fb ki fake id h usse laptop use kar k baat kar leti hun par ab uske parents usko sadi k liye force kar rhe h q k uski mummy ki tbyt thik nhi rehti h. or wo v bol raha h ab jada din wait nhi kar sakte h par sir main uske bager nhi reh sakungi agar usne kisi or ko apnaya toh main seh nhi paungi or main khud ko kuch kar lungi q k main ghar se bhagna nhi chahti q k ussh se parents ki jada badnami hogi
    sir meri situation aisi hogyi h k kvi kvi toh man karta h k zaher kha lun taki sab ko hmse chutkara mil jaye.
    mere gharwale bolte h k tum parh likh k aisa galti q ki mujhe yeh nhi samajh aata h k parents ko yeh baat q nhi samajh aati h k ishme parhai kha se bich me aagyi or isme meri kya galti h jo mujhe kisi muslim se pyar hua
    sir agar mere pass phone hota toh main aapko apna pura situation btati q k bhut kuch or h jo main type nhi kar sakti hun
    sir pls aap meri koi help kar sakte h toh btayega

    sir ek request h kya aap mere parents se baat kar sakte h unhe convince kar sakte h
    pls sir pls hm request kar rhe meri help kar digye

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  13. Hello, I am big fan of the idea on which this organisation works. I had a query that how can a common student, busy in his own academic life, provide strong support to this great organisation and the idea?

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  14. I need your opinion. I am in a relationship with a guy for past 11 years. And from past 6 years we are trying to convince my parents. He is a Christian and m a Jain. Also, we are in a long distance relationship jus struggling to get through. Please help.

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  16. Dear sir myself Fazlur, sir apki help ki zarorat hai mera partner Hindu h aur me Muslim but hm dono hi shadi kerna chahte hain, but parents problem create ker rhe hain, what can we do sir ?

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  17. Sir ,
    Waqt bahut kharab chal raha hai muslamo k liye aur mai muslim hum but muje ak rajput larki se mohabbat hai aur sahdi v karna chata hun , but hamare pass ghar chor k bagme k alawa aur koi rasta nhe hai bas daar lata hai hamare is desscison se maire family mob linching ka sikar na ho jye….need u help

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      • मेरी गर्लफ्रैंड मुस्लिम ह और मैं हिन्दू क्या हम शादी करना चाहते हैं क्या हो सकता ह क्या बिना किसी प्रॉब्लम्स की जयपुर

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      • prashant ji apne baare mey likhne key liye shukriya….problem ka hona is baat per nirbhar karta hai ki aap dono key pariwaron ka aapki shadi key baare mey kya manana hai….agar woh aapkey faisley key khilaaf hain to problems to hogi…

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  20. So glad to see that such organisation is working in our country, your good work and efforts are appreciable, may god bless the whole team and give you more courage to help people.All the best team “Dhanak”.

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  21. Sir i am Bharat from kutch gujarat i want maary with othet cast. She is ready to marry with me but our parents is not allow to us and we want to marry can you help us.

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  24. Dear asif sir .I knew you from ndtv . I am Ali MUNTAZER from begusarai bihar india .
    I am facing a difficulty . With different story
    I am a moderate non beliver or agnostic
    I Married marriage was arrienged .My wife’s family belongs to Communist party of india .That’s why I believe they they will be moderate and open thinker ,but they are totally fenetic and hard core Islamic extremists . Including my wife. After 2 months relationship she back her home . They are imposing islam on me through sharia adalat . I am feeling alone
    Plz guide me or help me sir
    Regards
    Md ali MUNTAZER

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  25. Am gopika from Kerala am in love with Muslim guy for 6yrs but my parents will not allow me to marry him..we really need your help how can I contact the dhanak team.

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  27. In the worst situation when a person need hope you people are there helping them giving a hope so that they don’t fall apart. Salute guys because this war is internal and nation need to fight this too to become developed. I have much more words but for now Thanks Dhanak Team for the Hope.

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  28. Hello,
    Sir my name is MAYANK ..i m form amreli gujrat.
    I love her so much but she’s parents are not agree.
    I want you will help me ,
    please sir help

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  30. Hey my names is monika i m hindu n want to marry a Christian guy my parents r not agreeing at all we r in relationship since 5 yrs nw n want to get married at earliest but because of my father i m waiting in case he agrees so incase u cn help me in ths plz i really need ur help n i dnt knw hw u ppl wrk also i just came to knw abt ur ngo thru you tube so plz reply n help thnk u

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  34. Sir can you please tell that how do you work…??
    My parents thinking are very orthodox..??
    Can anybody from Dhanak do a counselling with the parents??

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  35. Sir can you please tell that how do you work…??
    My parents thinking are very orthodox..??
    Can anybody from Dhanak do a counselling with the parents??

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    • Dear Kushal….we do talk to parents but, after the couple marry and wishes to resume the relationship….however, before the marriage….an each individual has to deal with their parents….if, they don’t agree with you then..our intervention is futile….please fill the required details in the form at “contact us” on webpage dhanak.info

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    • Dear Ajay,

      We would need some details regarding you and your partner. Please share your age, city, profession and the challenge/issue/s . We can extend any suggestions /advice only after a complete understanding of the situation.

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  37. Dear Dhanak Members,
    Congratulations for your wonderful act of kindness that too without any selfish motive.
    I found you on YouTube while struggling for my relationship.
    Desperately need ur help. M a well settled gal and in a relationship with a boy in same profession. We were knowing each other since last 13years and in committed relationship since 6years. His parents are agree for our marriage but mine are not.
    Need u to have a dialogue for convincing my parents.
    Waiting for ur reply.

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  38. I was strolling through internet pages for inter religious love marriage because i too am suffering from the similar situation. Meanwhile i found your video with ndtv prime time, i just want to thankyou for your work. You are doing a great job! If required i would take help from you in near future.

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